Stuck in Porn Mode

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The other day I was talking to this girl I just met. I decided to do some volunteer work at my school and in doing that I have to work with international students from around the world. Seeing that I write Interracial erotica, I figured that's some story ideas right there.  Anyways, I met this girl and she asked me about me. After blushing and trying to come up with something the coolest thing I could think of to say was I write romance. She asked what kind? I said, "the naughty kind". It was her turn to blush then she asked me the same question everyone's been asking me since I started writing Erotica, "Isn't that porn?"

I stared at her, blinking blankly before shaking my head defiantely and saying emphatically, 'No. Porn is the pizza man coming over and you have no money to pay him (or pretend to have no money to pay him) and asking to see his sausage you jump him' I don't write that crap. Sorry. I write hot stories with PLOT. I write stories that have a little something else because I really dislike reading about two people having sex. The truth is if that was what I wanted I could just go to a porn site and sit back with a bag of popcorn and a beer.

But then it got me thinking, similiar to the fact I walked away thinking this girlw as "stuck on stupid" there are a few authors who are stuck in porn. I read quite a lot of erotica. Not to get ideas but just to see what else is out there other than me and to get a feel for people, especially the authors of publishing houses I'd like to submit to at point and I have to say for the most part I was impressed but there are some that just says porn from page one. I deal in reality for the most part and you can't just meet someone today and by tonight you're humping his leg and screaming his name. I mean, who does that? I mean you can but what does that say about you? Those are called one night stands and really, in a book that causes youto escape reality? Why do one night stands when you can have it all?

I remember reading this one book where the first chapter was a sex scene and it goes sex, sex, sex and I remember skimming through the rest of the book, praying there was some plot. If she'd added in a little something extra that book could have been SO much better. I remember being disappointed because it was too much sex and not enough to make me feel as if I was escaping. It was as if she was slapping me in the face with sex (sorry bad mental image there).

All I'm saying is Erotica is so much different than porn. Erotica is sensual. It's being dirty with your man and loving it. It is not just meeting some strange guy and dragging him behind a building. That is porn--and not the good kind.