Saturday, 29 September 2012

Martin Sheen BLEW my mind!

I normally walk down the street and I see kids and they have their pants belted around their thighs - for the boys and the girls wear their skirts so short that if the breeze was to blow, just a little bit, it would be over their heads. I mean the thought of them being the ones to change this world scared the crap out of me! I mean be honest! You were thinking it.

But I had the oppurtunity to get a ticket for WE DAY. First of all you can't buy a ticket for WE DAY you have to EARN it. You have to do something to change the world to get a ticket for it. So because of our Agriculture Trip to Cuba, The guys over at Free The Children sent us some tickets.  I went thinking it was going to be just another mini concert with a bunch of kids and some famous people but boy was a I wrong.
We did have a mini concert with the likes of K'Naan, Nelly Furtado, Shawn Desman, Jennifer Hudson, The Tenors, Lil Jake and some dancers that taught us the WE DAY dance, but what really got me was Al Gore and Martin Sheen. Now Al Gore told us about the melting ice-caps which I've known about for a while now especially after researching Serbia for a story I have been writing for three years (ugh) and he told us that he has to rely on us to fix things.

But the big surprise to me was when they came on strage and introduced Martin Sheen (Yes, father of the same Charlie Sheen). Istood there, camera poised thinking "what in the world could Martin Sheen have to say to me about changing the world?" He walked on the stage, looked around, and began speaking.  From the moment he opened his mouth I was pulled in, intriqued if you will. He first apologised to us for letting his generation comepletely mess up the world. Because they aren't leaving us a very good legacy. He was articulate, and intelligent and funny. When he was finished, everyone was on their feet just cheering and applauding.

And what blew my mind? Aside from the fact Martin Sheen took time to fly to Canada to give children and youths hope for a better world - and aside from the fact he was so intelligent and amazingly outspoken? And aside from the fact that he is Martin-Fricking-Sheen? Its the fact that he has given me renewed hope that those same kids with their pants belted around their thighs and those girls with skirts short enough to cause a wardrobe malfunction can save the world. They can do something so beautiful and kind that it will be another ripple in the wave of world change.

I say again--Martin Sheen BLEW my mind.

Kendra Mei Chailyn

PS: If you have twitter please tweet @Zinc save lives and ask your friend to retweet it. For every retweet TEK will donate fifty cents to a fund to help villages around the world deal with zinc deficiencies. Not sure when it ends, probably after the WE DAYs have all been done. But do it just in case.

Thursday, 27 September 2012

Social Network Freedom and Privacy

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Social Networks, we are all a part of one or more of the vast networks out there. Myself being an author I'm pretty much all over the place connecting with other authors, publishers, readers and book lovers. Not everyone belongs to once specific place since there are so many choices out there.

With the advancement of technology and the freedom that people seem to have when it comes to their online life we all worry about privacy and being safe on the net. We all have the option to switch our profiles to private and only have the closest people to us see what we talk about and post.

Those options are there for a reason. Or are they?

I will give you an example. I recently discovered that Facebook now lets everyone see your status. Not just your friends. Now it is friends of friends and people who are not on your list of people who you connected with. Anyone has the chance to comment or read what you put out there. I have my profile set so that only friends can read my stuff but somehow it is visible to everyone. As an author I don't always mind since it means that my posts have more exposure.

But what if you don't want all your posts out there to the world? What if you only want a small group to see them?

We have such freedom and a lot of people don't realize what reach your social life on the net has. People reveal the most intimate details about who they are, their family life and everything in between.

Personally I think we must have some kind of limit about what we reveal and post online. Honestly I really don't want to know you scratched your butt or anything other of that nature.

We forget that now potential employers are even scouting the social networks and looking at the things we post. People have been know to get fired from stuff that they posted on a social network.

How do you feel about the privacy issue when it comes to social networks?
What is your opinion on how much people reveal to the world? Are you comfortable telling everyone everything?

stay naughty,

As always come visit me on my Official Site and Facebook page.

Thursday, 20 September 2012

You Searched For What?

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We as authors tend to search for some weird things at times for our stories. I've searched for info on planes to the type of rope to use that will not burn in a fire for a murder scene I was working on. I laugh that if anyone were to ever go through my search history they would probably freak out. 

Research is a part of our writing process..We write everything and sometimes we write about things we have no clue about..Like for example I have no idea about planes or how they work..Or models..

I've searched for so many things including poisons and murder weapons, looked at crime scenes for reference.  Can't forget making sure certain sexual positions are anatomically possible. Hey in my mind they are but one must make sure so my editor doesn't tell me it is not even close to being possible.

I'm not saying all research is so fun, interesting or pretty but it is always cool to learn something new along the way.

Lately I've been jumping the genre spectrum to the max. I'm doing contemporary, suspense and sci-fi all at once..I'm working on five books together..Each day I work on a little of one and then swap to another..I have been rotating them during the week to get them all done. So my research and Googling has been all over the map. This week I'm looking at fight techniques and self defense  moves.

So tell me if I were to ever go through your searches on your pc what are some of the weird or even funny things I might find?

As always remember to join me on Facebook and my Official Site for all the latest news.

stay naughty,

Wednesday, 19 September 2012

Could You Allow Him Control?


In the middle of a crowded restaurant? Would you consider a touch of public display? In my naughty poem that I penned, With a Single Look, not only does she wait in anticipation for her lover to arrive at a darkened restaurant, but she also follows him into a small space, presumably the bathroom where he requires her to undress for him. He will dole out punishment that she accepts readily and there are no words spoken. While he closes the door, he does not lock it signifying his total control and absolute power, but also her complete trust. Here’s a little taste…

I wait in silence in the shadowed light
While customers come and go, unaware
Of the hunger that burns within
To the point I can no longer breathe
I sense his presence drawing near
My instincts keen, my understanding strong
With a single look…
I will want

I watch in reverence as he enters the room
While he scans the crowded space, searching
For the woman that gives him freedom
Enough so that his features bear sensuous cravings
I drink in his feral scent
My wet heat clenching, my pulse racing
With a single look…
I will yearn

I feel my resolve crumbling as he draws closer
While the waiter serves the wine, suspecting
That the woman he sees is mesmerized
By the prowess of the stunning man
I lick my lips in anticipation
My desires raging, my legs quivering
With a single look…
I will need

I shiver as he gazes into my eyes
While a single finger traces down my neck, savoring
The feel of my skin as it trembles
Because of the whispered scintillating touch
I close my eyes in acquiescence
My realization complete, my acceptance secured
With a single look…
I will succumb

I follow as he leads into the darkness
While his hand never leaves my back, controlling
The lover he claimed so long ago
By the power that gave me life and love
I nod my head as he closes the door
My senses tingling, my voice quavering
With a single look…
I will become

I undress as he leans silently against the wall
While his eyes rake down my body, relishing
In the naked woman that stands before him unafraid
Because of the complete level of trust
I lower my eyes as he pushes me to the floor
My discipline required, my forgiveness complete
With a single look…
I now belong

Not only is a highly erotic act within itself, it is a bit dark and dangerous and something that probably few of us would consider. But tell me, have you ever given yourself over to passion somewhere that a bit naughty and out of the ordinary? The thought of being discovered is certainly an aphrodisiac to many and a touch too kinky to others. I have written about public displays and voyeurism in several of my stories because of the trickle of fear the meshes with the story.

You don’t have to be this deliciously naughty. You can allow him to be in control of that moment of passion in the privacy of your own home. I think for men they sometimes feel at a loss of control because of their everyday lives and the stresses of their job and a typical family life. Perhaps suggesting that he come up with something a bit saucy and completely out of both of your comfort zones might spice things up a bit. I am not suggesting that you go out in the middle of your cul-de-sac in an open convertible, but…there are certainly some other tasty methods that might give you both a kick, a sizzle.

There are many ways you can spice up you love life including reading naughty stories together or perhaps selecting toys on line that will be delivered discretely to your home in plain brown packages. Many of you may have heard of Frederick’s of Hollywood. It’s a wonderful little store where you can purchase not only sexy clothes and lingerie but you can also order a snazzy little costume for your sassy woman to slide into.

Imagine her as a Geisha girl or perhaps a policewoman that comes to your door. They are inexpensive and might add a little flavor to your otherwise vanilla moments of rapture. Then again, a raging fire, a bottle of massage oil and a very lit candles might give you a spark. I’ll give you a tempting little piece and see if that gives your imagination a boost.

Mark heard the doorbell and sighed. Who could it be at this hour? Grousing, he set down his beer and headed for the front door. Swinging it open, he was completely unprepared for the vixen standing before him. “Yes, can I help you?” He realized his voice was trembling. Gazing down the length of her, the stunning voluptuous redhead stood in a she-devil costume complete with red fishnet stockings, a long tail and stilettos that showed her curvaceous legs.

“Special delivery,” she cooed, her voice raspy.

“For me?” Mark choked, his heart thumping.

“For one very good boy.” Licking her lips, she tipped her head back as she took her long crimson tail in her hand, swinging it in circle after circle.

The sensuous act not lost on him, he stepped back and blinked furiously, he gaze settling on her rosy nipples that were just peeking out from the tight confines of her corset. “I’m sure you have the wrong house.”

Slowly she smiled and shook her head. “No, I don’t think so. I think I’m in the exact place I need to be.” Stepping inside, she pushed him back with a single finger and kicked the door close. Purring, she inhaled deeply as she fingered the slip of satin that held the corset together.

“, I’m sure you have to wrong place.” Her face hidden behind the mask, he longed to see her. Hell, he longed to taste her.

“No, I don’t.” With a single flick of her hand, she unfurled the string.

Mark panted as she eased her breasts out from the tight confines, her grin full of mischief. “Who…who are you?”

Giggling, she removed her mask as she closed the distance.

“You are so going to get it!” Mark growled.

“Can’t your wife give you a little tease?”

Well, written on the fly, but maybe it gives you a wicked little idea of your own.


Tuesday, 18 September 2012

What's your fantasy?

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It's funny, I've been writing for a while now and I never ever thought I was catering to anyone's fantasy.  So on Sunday I was at work chatting with someone over facebook and he quickly pointed out that I was catering to his every fantasy....vat?...really? lil old me??? Seriously, really?

I was so proud. I flailed and the girl sitting beside was like "oi vey!" (No Havan you CANNOT point me on this blog). It was a very pleasant surprise for me. I mean who would have thought there were men like Jose DeLuca out there who love their Bears (well I knew that but like Jose??). Or like Hei from MOLOKAI. The thought of peole living vicariously through my characters is amazing to me but to fantasize about them just really turns me on (grins).

I try to write men who are upstanding--who are a little flawed but aren't morally corrupt. I try to write men who are sexy in their own way not physically but mentally and emotionally.

The purpose of this post is to ask what your fantasies are? What do you love between two men getting all hot and sexy with each other? Tell me here or email me. I have a SONS OF EROS tshirt to give away so if you comment here at the blog, I will for sure pick one person and send them the tshirt.

What is your fantasy? (please keep it legal - thanks lol but seriously...)

Remmy Duchene

Monday, 17 September 2012

Stuck in Porn Mode

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The other day I was talking to this girl I just met. I decided to do some volunteer work at my school and in doing that I have to work with international students from around the world. Seeing that I write Interracial erotica, I figured that's some story ideas right there.  Anyways, I met this girl and she asked me about me. After blushing and trying to come up with something the coolest thing I could think of to say was I write romance. She asked what kind? I said, "the naughty kind". It was her turn to blush then she asked me the same question everyone's been asking me since I started writing Erotica, "Isn't that porn?"

I stared at her, blinking blankly before shaking my head defiantely and saying emphatically, 'No. Porn is the pizza man coming over and you have no money to pay him (or pretend to have no money to pay him) and asking to see his sausage you jump him' I don't write that crap. Sorry. I write hot stories with PLOT. I write stories that have a little something else because I really dislike reading about two people having sex. The truth is if that was what I wanted I could just go to a porn site and sit back with a bag of popcorn and a beer.

But then it got me thinking, similiar to the fact I walked away thinking this girlw as "stuck on stupid" there are a few authors who are stuck in porn. I read quite a lot of erotica. Not to get ideas but just to see what else is out there other than me and to get a feel for people, especially the authors of publishing houses I'd like to submit to at point and I have to say for the most part I was impressed but there are some that just says porn from page one. I deal in reality for the most part and you can't just meet someone today and by tonight you're humping his leg and screaming his name. I mean, who does that? I mean you can but what does that say about you? Those are called one night stands and really, in a book that causes youto escape reality? Why do one night stands when you can have it all?

I remember reading this one book where the first chapter was a sex scene and it goes sex, sex, sex and I remember skimming through the rest of the book, praying there was some plot. If she'd added in a little something extra that book could have been SO much better. I remember being disappointed because it was too much sex and not enough to make me feel as if I was escaping. It was as if she was slapping me in the face with sex (sorry bad mental image there).

All I'm saying is Erotica is so much different than porn. Erotica is sensual. It's being dirty with your man and loving it. It is not just meeting some strange guy and dragging him behind a building. That is porn--and not the good kind.

Saturday, 15 September 2012

Lack of communication during sex leads to???

How important is communication during sex?

Now, don't laugh. First read this then laugh or giggle or nod or shake your head or whatever, but really think about this for a moment. When you're hot and heavy in the moment, are you capable of communicating with your partner? Now, no... I'm not talking about the water bill or something you forgot at the grocery store, or even that Stan is cheating on his wife. What I am talking about is are you and your partner “telling” one another what you need or want during the special moments you can manage to find together?

It doesn't always have to be by word of mouth either, it can be a simple look along with you taking his/her hand in yours and guiding it to where you'd like it to be at that moment. If you can manage speech then tell him/her what you want. It's important, so very important. Why?

Well that's easy. The answer is because if you don't say anything your needs, wants, desires, aren't being met and that ultimately leaves you unsatisfied and that leads to an underlying resentment towards your partner and you don't want that. Believe me. Sure, you can go a time or two or three or perhaps years of never telling your partner what you desire during the heat of the moment, but keep putting it off and believe me, it'll build and build and before you know it, the very act of having sex with that person becomes a chore, not an experience you're looking forward to, or one you even enjoy any longer.

All due to communication. Yep, sexual tensions heat up, needs aren't being fulfilled and hello stranger, how about a night of fun!? If you aren't communicating with your chosen sexual partner, the sex goes downhill super fast and as humans, we are a needy bunch. If we aren't getting pleasure in on or around the bed, living room, dining room, shower, hell even the backseat of a car, we are going to find it some place else. That is called: Cheating.

Loss of communication between you and your partner, about sex, of sex, during sex, can lead to that ultimate crime that will, under most circumstances, break your union up. NO? Come now...(Not literally! Goodness just hold up here.) Think about it. If you're not getting what you so desperately want from your lover, be it thrown up against the wall and groped, kissed until you're dizzy and panting with need, or bent over the living room couch, perhaps a spank or ten? Oh, or how about the cuffs and a blindfold? You want to try something new you say? Yet you're afraid to approach your lover about it because s/he is a gentle vanilla lover and you're scared s/he'll think you've lost your ever loving mind...Your needs are NOT being met. There is a loss of communication right there. 

Let's start off a score card, shall we? The card has ten stars. We get a new card each time the big event takes place. For each need, want, desire that is met, we mark a star. Lets go down the line okay?

1- Body tingling in anticipation?
2- Foreplay leaves you panting and begging?
3- Kissing you breathless?
4- All the right areas are being groped?
STOP....You've been wanting to feel a strong hand hold your wrists above your head, rendering you helpless as your lovers experienced mouth devours you. You've been wanting to be felt up and down, not gently but not too harshly either. You want your partner to show you without words who is in control.
5- The initial act happens and that's that. comes the clean up. But wait....Dammit! Okay, so your partner couldn't read your mind that time either. There's always next time right? I suppose you can buy the latest story with the strong alpha character and read as s/he does all the right things to his/her lover and pretend that it's you.

YAY, lover is in the mood again. Score card out? GREAT...we have to start over don't forget.
Repeat steps're sure your mind is being read then step 5 happens. UGH! You even put your hands above your own head and s/he did not read that sign. I guess that's not the proper sign to have your lover “bind” you during the act? I dunno. Whichever, what's done is done. OH! Look, another book was released and you find yourself getting lost in the characters and once again pretending its you. Only in this book you have learned something new that you'd like to try. Let's say you want to tie your partner up, ankles and wrists to the bedposts, blindfold perhaps? How much fun to have that ultimate control over their body and of their release. You can't wait for the right time.

Right time is here!! have the proper tools in the nightstand drawer, you have your score card and you're ready to make it to ten. Step 1 has gone down a bit, not your fault, it's left over frustration. Step 2 would be the perfect time to introduce your toys of pleasure, right? Get them all hot and reach over to get what you need and you're stopped. “What are you doing? Don't stop now.” Heh. Don't stop now? There goes that card. You don't want to disappoint after all. And since you can't find your tongue to say anything, you're on step five before you know it.

This is repeated for... lets say a year...Life does have a habit of getting away from one at times. You've read so many books, you want to try so many things, you're almost sure that the small chat you managed to have with your lover would open their eyes right? I mean you did say: “Don't you think it'd be fun to use cuffs and a blindfold?” Right? “With the feather?” And your lover said sure sure whatever.'s the time. The card is out, tools ready...step 1 is back, step 2? What was that? Steps 3 and 4 are long forgotten and five minutes later you're lying there rolling your eyes and thinking of what to make for dinner the next night.

Watch it, life will slip away again...Score cards are torn up, you go to bed later and later and before you know it... You're applying to become a nun.

All of that could have been avoided if you would have said: “This is what I want to try...This is what I need...This is what we should try to see if it's for us. Let's just try it out and see.”

Communication isn't only important out of the's as important in it. 

Friday, 14 September 2012

Do you like my swag baby???

Oh my freaking goodness...I left my thumbdrive at home...all my goodies are on it...I feel so undressed right now *heads desk giggling*
*slouches and pseudo smiles* soooooooo...whatcha doin? *eye roll* this is not
one of those clamps
*heads desk*

Okay I'm gonna make today short and simple and use it for my own personal gain...muahahahahah
GRL is coming up (GayRomLit)...and even though I won't be attending *raises hands to quiet down booing...giggles*...yeah I have no ego right? hehe Okay—I won't be going to GRL...but a couple VIP friends will be attending and have offered to hand out swag for me...

I asked this question on my author page on FB and got some great I wanted to spread this question out to ya'll...
What kind of swag do you look forward to from the authors you read? What kind would you keep? What kind might you toss once you clear that author's table?
****of topic...but whenever you hear swag don't you just want to swing your hips? hehe****
sooooooo...whatcha planning
on measuring? hehe
...and to expand on my question just a smidgeon...
Do you prefer cover art on your swag or would you rather have a personalized type of picture that you can relate with one particular author? (kinda like a symbol that the author uses that is like their trademark)
It isn't too late for authors to order more swag for the upcoming main give us some ideas...please and thank you! *bows*

Thursday, 13 September 2012

Don't Judge A Book By The Cover...Well Maybe...

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So imagine you want into the book store and see a hot looking book on the shelf with the most delectable cover. You can't take your eyes off it..As you approach closer you pick up the book and start to read the back blurb. It's even sexier than the cover...

OMG you must have this book..You are already thinking of getting lost in the story as you turn the pages...

Now walk up to the shelf and see the worst cover you could possibly know...You glance at it not because it looks interesting but because it is just so bad..You quickly glance away and work your eyes over the shelf to a better looking cover..

You never pick up the book with the bad cover but do think to yourself.."What was someone thinking when they made that."

What if it turned out that the book with the hot cover and amazing back blurb turned out to be a horrible read and you missed out on an amazing story because you passed on the book with a horrible cover?

We all know how important book covers are when it comes to stories. Being an author I strive to always have one heck of a cover to match my story and to grab the readers attention.

Lets face it, a cover is the first thing we see when we look at a book. There is a small window of time as a person makes up their mind to pick the book up, read the blurb and make the purchase.

Even though we authors always want to have the best cover that reflects our books and we fill out cover art forms to give the cover artist an idea of what we want, it is not always possible to have the perfect cover.

Sometimes we are stuck with a cover that we might not like or be too fond of.

Just because a cover is not the best looking doesn't mean that we should pass up checking out the book. Yes there is a saying Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover...but sadly we do..

So I think that people should give all books a chance. Decide for yourself if the book is worth reading or not even if the cover is not the most desirable.

As a reader have you ever judged a book by the cover and later found out you passed up a wonderful story? How important is a cover for you when you are picking up a possible book to read?

stay naughty,

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Wednesday, 12 September 2012

How HOT Do You Like Your Sex Toys?


Yeah, you heard me - SEX TOYS.  Now that doesn’t seem like a huge fantasy – does it? But the interesting thing about sex toys is that it remains a very private issue for a lot of people and especially men. I’m not going to get into the logistics and comparisons of the types of toys but let’s just say whatever your kink is you can find it. Until several years ago you really couldn’t find anything other than your basic vibrator unless you went to one of “those” stores. You know the ones I mean, the type sitting in ugly concrete buildings nestled in that not so nice part of town. Usually back off the main street you could park around back and hopefully not be seen when you went inside. That way if you purchased anything like a very kinky magazine to an anal plug your friends and family wouldn’t know what you were purchasing. The store keepers even placed your items in a plain brown bag so no one had any idea.

Boy, is it different today. I recently purchased a slew of sexy items for a conference and not only was the store a beautifully maintained well-lit location on a very main drag in my town but the bags were pink plastic with their logo slapped all over them. Hey, while it was an excuse I had a blast and even the few men purchasing sexy videos and kinda giving me the eye seemed fairly comfortable. But if you honestly think about it, you can purchase anything you could ever imagine on line. Type in the word sex toys and a myriad of on-line stores pop up. Some have been around longer than you would imagine and now you can have your selection of not just a couple vibrators but about three dozen or so in various shapes, sizes and yes colors. I love the purple Rabbit vibrator and the hot pink one.

Whatever your selection you items come in plain brown packages at your door and no one, including your UPS man has any idea. So why do people continue to hide away from the fact they not only purchase items but enjoy using them? Hmmm… Is it perhaps because they think if they admit they’re using them then they’re not that good in bed? Hogwash!  The concept for using them is to develop more playtime alone and with your partner. Sex toys are designed to develop and titillate new sensations in and on your body. From massage oil to anal plugs most places have it all.

I have found with women they continue to hide their toys away in a drawer and a lot of times use them very privately as if telling their partner is also a bad thing. Now, of course you have to keep them hidden from children. Not sure how I’d want to explain what the long chartreuse rubber thing is used for but… What’s wrong with purchasing them together as a couple? Men enjoy sensations and there are wonderful toys designed just for men. There are also others designed for couples.

And no, its not all about kink and spanking either. However if you’re into a bit more than a plug and a vibrator you can find that too. From electric play to spanking benches they’re out there. I had no idea until I started writing erotic and exploring just how many there are. There are iron forgers who design branding irons and leather men who do nothing but create especially designed collars. It’s amazing what you can find. And we won’t even talk about the medical play equipment.

Don’t let these extremes pull you away. What most couple are looking for is stimulation and excitement and even bringing a little romance back into their sex life. Imagine a scenario:  No kids and you have the house to yourself on a snowy Saturday night. There’s a fire roaring in the fireplace with the snow falling softly outside. The bearskin rug is right by the hearth There’s soft jazz music playing and you have an open bottle of wine and a basket. What’s in the basket? Massage oil, vibrators, anal plugs, fuzzy handcuffs, nipple clamps and rope. Hmmm… does that give you any sexy ideas? To each their own but playtime is just that and if you’re uncomfortable you can try something else. The price range is all over the place from extremely affordable to downright outrageous. It’s all up to you.

Don’t be afraid – fill your life with passion.

Kisses   xxx