How HOT Do You Like Your Sex Toys?

CASSANDRE DAYNE


Yeah, you heard me - SEX TOYS.  Now that doesn’t seem like a huge fantasy – does it? But the interesting thing about sex toys is that it remains a very private issue for a lot of people and especially men. I’m not going to get into the logistics and comparisons of the types of toys but let’s just say whatever your kink is you can find it. Until several years ago you really couldn’t find anything other than your basic vibrator unless you went to one of “those” stores. You know the ones I mean, the type sitting in ugly concrete buildings nestled in that not so nice part of town. Usually back off the main street you could park around back and hopefully not be seen when you went inside. That way if you purchased anything like a very kinky magazine to an anal plug your friends and family wouldn’t know what you were purchasing. The store keepers even placed your items in a plain brown bag so no one had any idea.

Boy, is it different today. I recently purchased a slew of sexy items for a conference and not only was the store a beautifully maintained well-lit location on a very main drag in my town but the bags were pink plastic with their logo slapped all over them. Hey, while it was an excuse I had a blast and even the few men purchasing sexy videos and kinda giving me the eye seemed fairly comfortable. But if you honestly think about it, you can purchase anything you could ever imagine on line. Type in the word sex toys and a myriad of on-line stores pop up. Some have been around longer than you would imagine and now you can have your selection of not just a couple vibrators but about three dozen or so in various shapes, sizes and yes colors. I love the purple Rabbit vibrator and the hot pink one.

Whatever your selection you items come in plain brown packages at your door and no one, including your UPS man has any idea. So why do people continue to hide away from the fact they not only purchase items but enjoy using them? Hmmm… Is it perhaps because they think if they admit they’re using them then they’re not that good in bed? Hogwash!  The concept for using them is to develop more playtime alone and with your partner. Sex toys are designed to develop and titillate new sensations in and on your body. From massage oil to anal plugs most places have it all.

I have found with women they continue to hide their toys away in a drawer and a lot of times use them very privately as if telling their partner is also a bad thing. Now, of course you have to keep them hidden from children. Not sure how I’d want to explain what the long chartreuse rubber thing is used for but… What’s wrong with purchasing them together as a couple? Men enjoy sensations and there are wonderful toys designed just for men. There are also others designed for couples.

And no, its not all about kink and spanking either. However if you’re into a bit more than a plug and a vibrator you can find that too. From electric play to spanking benches they’re out there. I had no idea until I started writing erotic and exploring just how many there are. There are iron forgers who design branding irons and leather men who do nothing but create especially designed collars. It’s amazing what you can find. And we won’t even talk about the medical play equipment.

Don’t let these extremes pull you away. What most couple are looking for is stimulation and excitement and even bringing a little romance back into their sex life. Imagine a scenario:  No kids and you have the house to yourself on a snowy Saturday night. There’s a fire roaring in the fireplace with the snow falling softly outside. The bearskin rug is right by the hearth There’s soft jazz music playing and you have an open bottle of wine and a basket. What’s in the basket? Massage oil, vibrators, anal plugs, fuzzy handcuffs, nipple clamps and rope. Hmmm… does that give you any sexy ideas? To each their own but playtime is just that and if you’re uncomfortable you can try something else. The price range is all over the place from extremely affordable to downright outrageous. It’s all up to you.

Don’t be afraid – fill your life with passion.

Kisses   xxx

Cassandre

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What's Not to Love About a Man with Tattoos?

CASSANDRE DAYNE

Oh yeah. I can get all hot and bothered just thinking about that early in the morning. Now you guys know I love hot and dangerous men, right? Well I can’t seem to get enough of them and I think along with the basic persona of a rough-hewn man who’s sexy and sassy and just gives me the shivers. Now for some reason that tends to go with a guy who has tats as well. I don’t know how that works but I’ve found when I put my characters together my guys almost always have some sexy form of body art. And the truth is that creative tattoos are indeed art. I have several friends who create from scratch beautiful pictures they adorn both men and women with. From sexy and sultry to military and dangerous – they’re an extension of where we are creatively inside. Tattoos and body piercings are also almost a mask of sorts allowing us to be who we really want to be behind our outward appearance. A lot of us are forced to hide behind who we are for our careers and family. So we choose to get a little wild.

That being said women also are enjoying getting either a large or small one that’s hidden. I don’t know if it’s about sexual identity or the feeling of being wild but for some women it’s a passage into sharing something that’s just a touch wicked. I love the idea and granted haven’t gotten one yet but the idea is there. I know we’ve all heard that you can’t remove them and a lot of employers don’t want huge pictures adorning arms and legs and other body parts. Well that’s the point – you can have these works of art located in very private locations. And I can assure you a tattoo parlor isn’t like what you’ve seen in horror movies. These places of business are clean and professional and the talented staff trained.

What about body piercings? You ever thought you’d want to give it a try? Men and women have had their ears pierces for years but what about other locations like the navel or your nipples? Or perhaps your tongue? For some I’ve heard that performing certain acts of oral sex is far more stimulating when the giver has their tongue pierced. I can only imagine. Mmmm… for some women and men of course we use nipple clamps in our moments of heated passion, chains attached for tugging – it’s not just about BDSM any longer. For women especially who love the practice, it’s not only a feeling of submitting to a Dom but the slight angst of pain is a very heady aphrodisiac.

Imagine if your nipples were pierced? Not only the feeling of the thin piece of metal scraping against the lace of your bra is sexy to me but envision a chain being attached and your lover pulling on the end during wild sex? Oh yes you can imagine the dichotomy of pain and pleasure, excitement surging through your body allowing the adrenaline to flow as he drives his shaft deep inside – whew. Hot and bothered yet? For many men and women body piercings are simply another extension of kinky and a delicious one at that. Whatever your form of expression the idea of body art has changed and I love the thought of my hot men with both. Yes, there’s another form including clit piercing and a lot of women find that very stimulating in many ways. I think you have to do your research if you’re really interested but again can be sexy and exciting giving you a hint of uninhibited wickedness.    

In creating my m/m characters – there’s no difference for me. My guys tend to have tattoos and ride Harley’s and enjoy a bit of kink. They love their women hard and fast just like they love their lives. I think there’s something so refreshing about a man who can he hard bodied on the outside and yet oh so soft on the inside. What do you think ladies? Yummy today?

Hope you enjoyed and think about getting a little wild and wooly the next time you pass by a tattoo place – you might just have a lot of fun selecting the perfect extension to that wicked wide we all have.

Kisses   xxx

Cassandre

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What's in a Kiss?

CASSANDRE DAYNE

Ah the power of a wonderful kiss. I there truly anything more passionate? I don't think so. I was writing a scene in one of my books yesterday that was so very intimate and so intense that I honestly stepped back and went WHEW. And then I had to smile. The reason for me the moment was so incredible between my characters was because of a kiss, including the look in their eyes, the way they held hands, the gentle touches followed by brushing their lips together and then the moment shared was really heated. I was thinking about some of the most powerful scenes in movies and for me the ones that stick out always include hot, wild and wicked kisses.

Think about your partner. Don't you enjoy the very beginning of making love when he or she is all over you kissing your neck, your cheeks, licking around your mouth and eventually nibbling just enough you moan? Don't you shiver when they continue licking and kissing down until they reach your chest, maybe going a little further and beginning the oh-so-tasty naughty phase? I can tell you that I DO judge a man by the way he kisses. Don't get me wrong, there are times I simply like hard and fast fucking (yes I said the dirty word) but for the most part I want my man to kiss me all over. Whether gentle pecs or intense lips that will drive you into the heart of pleasure, I want it all.

There are days I could sit in front of a fire, drinking wine perhaps and listening to some soulful music, and he and I are doing nothing more than kissing for a full hour. Granted, I KNOW eventually the kissing is going to lead to something much more...shall we say kinky, but we wouldn't be going there without such a bonding session between us. Sometimes I think kissing truly brings couples closer together, not only as lovers but as friends and companions. You've seen the kisses between older couples either on television or on the street and you go "awe". Right? You remember the days you kissed your sexy man for the first time and loved every second of his scent and the sensuous way he held you.

So why aren't you doing more of that today? Are we as couples so damn busy we can't do anything but the light pec on the cheek. You know, "gotta run honey and see ya tonight" kind of kiss. PLEASE. I want more. I crave more. I HAVE to have more. So that's why I judge my man and the way he kisses. His lips are soft, his hands are hungry and the rest of him tells me in no uncertain terms I belong to him.  Mmmm... Getting all hot and bothered just thinking about his sexy kiss. I love the way he tastes and the way his tongue entwines with mine. I love the feel of his arms wrapped around me. Yes. YES!

Can you feel it? Can you remember? It's past time for you to try kissing and little else again. Well, I say that and I know I want more but I need to feel the intimacy with my man and kissing for me gets my jets going full stream. I thought I'd give you a sexy little picture (and yes naysayers it's purchased) to remind you why a kiss is so incredibly moanable. I hope you like and I hope you have plans for tonight...

Kisses   xxx


Cassandre

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